Should You See a Therapist?

Addicts and alcoholics who enter treatment programs will participate in both individual and group therapy sessions. These sessions accomplish many goals: they address any underlying emotional or other issues that may have led to the addiction; they address any damage to the addict’s self-esteem, career, and relationships; and they equip the addict with strategies for successfully living out a sober life. Lifelong participation in therapy or support groups can be crucial to decreasing the addict’s risk of relapse

(Read Reduce Your Risk of Relapse). On the other hand, the families and friends of addicts sometimes feel the need to repress their feelings about what the addict has put them through, especially after the addict has made admirable attempts at getting sober. Addicts and alcoholics can have far-reaching and long-term effects on the people around them (Read Alcoholism’s Effects on the Family and Why the Children of Addicts Marry Other Addicts). Although members of Al-Anon and Alateen find the groups to be a helpful way to meet others whose lives have been affected by an alcoholic and discuss the effects of alcoholism, the groups restrict discussion to only those topics that are directly related to alcoholism. Seeing a therapist in addition to attending support groups can provide you with a personalized outlet for your unique situation. What are some reasons to consider seeing a therapist or counselor?

• The addiction is still rampant, and you are worried about the addict’s future.
• You feel somehow to blame for the addiction.
• You recognize your role in perpetuating the addiction, but are afraid to take the first step (Read Are You an Enabler?)
• Your feelings about an addict’s behaviors, choices, or lifestyle – whether past or present – are disrupting your life.
• You can’t shake the feeling of wishing the addict could have to go through what they put you through; you want revenge or to see them get punished in some way.
• You feel ashamed, worthless, depressed, or another negative emotion.

What can I expect from therapy? Different therapists use different techniques (such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) to help their patients heal. Because emotions and negative thoughts can be deeply rooted, it may take a while to feel “recovered.” But even small accomplishments, like insights into the addict’s motivations and your own feelings, can be an enormous relief. A therapist can also help you develop techniques for addressing conflicts and challenges as they arise.

How can I find a therapist in my area? SayNo.com has put together a national list of professional counselors. Please click here to learn more.

What can I do if I can’t afford it and my insurance won’t cover it? If you live near a major research university, try contacting the school’s psychology department. The psychology students are training to become professionals and are often required to consult with their professor about their patients. Some of these departments base their fees on the patient’s income, so the rates could be very affordable.